We are now at the last pillar of well-being which is defined as purpose.
Purpose has had a resurgence of interest in the past few years, and I confess to have done my fair share of contemplation with it!
Most inquiries around purpose seem to focus on action, as in what you do, how you do it and then show up in the world. But underneath that is another layer, isn’t there? It’s the motivation behind the action.
Here’s what I mean. If you think you are here to be helpful, of service, then you will choose a job to illustrate that belief.
Think about someone like Steve Jobs. He famously said that he wanted to “make a dent in the universe.” It isn’t surprising, then, that he gravitated towards technology as his way of leaving an indelible mark.
To this end, the focus Dr Davidson emphasizes when he addresses this pillar is on values.
What are your core values?
If you’re drawing a blank, don’t worry. This can be hard. You can use this wonderful list compiled by Brené Brown to shed light.
Once you’ve identified your core values, lean into them even when you’re doing chores or other seemingly mundane activities, like the dishes or laundry.
This idea always reminds me of a close friend I had in my 20s. We were both recent graduates from college living in Hong Kong, thousands of miles from our families. I remember him saying to me once, “it doesn’t matter what you do. You could be a garbage collector! Whatever it is, do your best and take pride in what you’re doing.”
I her him in my head when I clean the toilet, make the bed, show up on calls, write an essay. Because that is the VALUE behind the action, the intention.
Not surprisingly, the research tells us that having a sense of purpose improves health outcomes and behaviors.
A great practice to help you hone into your purpose and core values, is to do an inquiry. Take that list I linked above and spend some time with it.
See if you can come up with your top 5 values!
As I end this little mini-series, I thought I’d leave you with some words from Dr Davidson about our minds and how we can support them even more.
Many of the most significant challenges in the world today stem directly or indirectly from a failure to nurture the key pillars of well-being. Is such a massive change in mindset possible? I would say emphatically, yes. Consider that when human beings first evolved on the planet, none of us were brushing our teeth. Yet I imagine every one of you reading this essay brushes your teeth. This simple act of personal physical hygiene is not inborn, it’s not a part of our genome. We’ve all learned to do this, and now incorporate teeth brushing into our daily routine. I also suspect that most of you would consider your mind to be even more important than your teeth. Yet most people in the world today do not spend even as little time each day nourishing their mind as they spend brushing their teeth.
Our research, as well as studies by others, clearly indicates that even very short amounts of contemplative practice can make a big difference in one’s well-being. What is a short amount of practice? Our work demonstrates that even 5-6 minutes per day of practicing the skills of well-being can dramatically decrease standardized measures of distress and improve measures of well-being and social connection.
Now that you’ve heard it from the expert, are you in?
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