Yes You Can!
When we decide to make a shift in our lives – be it a new job, relationship or home- there’s first the decision and then the doing.
Ready to make that shift in your life?
A new job, relationship or home?
Once you decide, things start to fall in place, a To-Do list or path becomes clear.
And yet, as you move closer to the actual shift, the change itself, new resistance and difficulties arise.
Here’s the trick: Don’t Quit!
Ready to make that shift in your life?
A new job, relationship or home?
Once you decide, things start to fall in place, a To-Do list or path becomes clear.
And yet, as you move closer to the actual shift, the change itself, new resistance and difficulties arise.
Here’s the trick: Don’t Quit!
The first time I heard about this was from Harv Eker.
He explained how you have to be willing to keep going towards your goals despite the obstacles. Often, there are a few and it’s only after you’ve attempted for the third time that you break through.
Sound familiar?
I experienced this exact thing when we made our move last month.
On the day the truck was at my house loading our belongings, I went to run a quick errand with my kids to pick up a piece of jewelry I’d designed and ordered. The pendant was a symbol of my “new” life so I was eager to get it prior to the actual transition.
About twenty minutes into the hour-long ride up I-95, we hit standstill traffic. There was a huge collision and the police were re-routing everyone off the highway. It took another two hours for us to get there.
Did I quit? No. Because I knew that this is how change is.
The next day we flew to Seattle. We had three checked bags, two carry-ons, three back packs, and our puppy dog. Since we had so much stuff and were arriving late at night, I reserved a rental car at the terminal.
Once we retrieved our luggage and piled it onto a metal cart, we followed the signs to the rental car area. This lead us out to the curb where over a hundred people were queued up, waiting for a shuttle bus to the rental car building.
Sometimes nothing feels easy.
And this is because of our egos.
When we are on the cusp of shifting, part of us gets scared – what if this change is bad? What if it hurts? What if it’s a mistake?
Despite the fact that it’s exactly what you want, your ego doesn’t really want to change – it always seeks to stay the same.
So it kicks up resistance when you least expect it, and obstacles get in the way.
The trick is to keep going anyway. Just like I did at the Seattle airport.
I took a deep breath, got on line and wheeled that buggy to the bus. Just as my husband boarded with the dog, and I was unloading our bags wondering how the he** I was going to manage it all, an airport supervisor showed up. He stopped everyone else from getting on and loaded my bags for me!
Thank you, God!
So the next time you feel like the change isn’t ever going to happen. That you’ll never get there, know that you will.
Remember that it always takes more effort than you think. It may even take three tries! Love yourself enough to know that you can do it and that you will succeed!
You’re so close!
Share where you are on YOUR path! Leave a comment below, I'd love to hear!
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Your Life Is A Creative Venture
Lately I’ve been doing inventory.
I’ve been reflecting on my life and examining it by asking this question: Did I make a significant decision according to a set of rules, some kind of pre-ordained/ family inspired plan or because it was truly and deeply something that I wanted to do for my own self growth?
Take a moment to look back at your life and ask yourself the same question.
Turns out that we make a lot of decisions based on: pleasing others, fulfilling expectations, because it’s the right thing to do or is what we’re “supposed” to do.
Ouch.
Lately I’ve been doing inventory.
I’ve been reflecting on my life and examining it by asking this question: Did I make that significant decision according to a set of rules, some kind of pre-ordained/ family inspired plan OR because it was truly and deeply something that I wanted to do for my own self growth?
Take a moment to look back at your life and ask yourself the same question.
Turns out that we make a lot of decisions based on: pleasing others, fulfilling expectations, because it’s the right thing to do or is what we’re “supposed” to do.
Ouch.
But when all is said and done, this is your life.
It’s imperative – for you, your family, society and the world at large – for you to follow that innate knowing, that core inner voice that’s telling you what you really want to do. This voice that easily gets drowned out by all the shoulds and have-tos shouting around us.
Now is your time.
Give yourself permission to live a different way. And experience life as an exciting adventure.
I believe that we are co-creators of our lives. If you embrace this idea, then allow yourself to step into the role of creative director of your life!
We live in a world of infinite possibility. How exciting is that? Anything and everything is possible for you right now!
If you’ve decided that you don’t want to live by someone else’s rules, limitations or expectations, or perhaps you have had that creativity in your life but somehow lost it along the way, here’s how to get it back:
1. YOU Are In Charge
Embrace this idea that you are the co-creator of your life. Life is an active, creative process, one that we are manifesting and visioning into reality everyday. Think about all of the changes in technology – ipods, smartphones, apps. How did they all start? With an idea.
Your life is a creative process, too, so dream it into existence!
2. Get Really Clear
The first part of being a creator is to decide what you want.
For many years, I didn’t know what I wanted and so I learned what I didn't want by doing lots of not so fun things. This method wasn't terribly effective and I don’t recommend it. It would have been much easier if I’d known what I'd wanted and gone for it!
Be clear on exactly what you want: a new job (where, doing what, earning how much…) The more specific you can be the easier it will manifest.
Then take focused action towards your goal. What can you do to move you towards getting that job? Write a resume, cover letter, email the company, get an internship, etc.
3. Focus On The What
Our job is always to answer ONE question: What do you want?
Then we have to get out of the way.
We have no control over the how or even the when. Those are within the Universe’s domain.
I know this sounds hard, especially for those of us who are or were control freaks. But the most amazing part of this is once you do let go, the Universe works in ways you could never imagine from your current vantage point. I have been suprised over and over again by things that have manifested virtually out of thin air!
4. Relax And Have Fun!
Life is meant to be enjoyed not toiled through. Doesn’t that feel so much better?
I spent years of my life under the harness of duty and obligation. It’s part of how I’m hardwired. The wonderful aspect of this is that it has always motivated me to be of service to humanity. The downside is I can get resentful when I do things because I should and not because I want to.
Now I still serve but in ways that also fuel me. I am happier, and my life is more fun and exciting.
Think about how you can enjoy this creative process of life – making it richer and fuller all the time. How could your life be even more fun?
Relax and know that if you focus on creating it, it will come.
Incorporate these 4 simple tools into your life planning, sit back and enjoy the ride!