Lately I’ve been doing inventory.
I’ve been reflecting on my life and examining it by asking this question: Did I make that significant decision according to a set of rules, some kind of pre-ordained/ family inspired plan OR because it was truly and deeply something that I wanted to do for my own self growth?
Take a moment to look back at your life and ask yourself the same question.
Turns out that we make a lot of decisions based on: pleasing others, fulfilling expectations, because it’s the right thing to do or is what we’re “supposed” to do.
But when all is said and done, this is your life.
It’s imperative – for you, your family, society and the world at large – for you to follow that innate knowing, that core inner voice that’s telling you what you really want to do. This voice that easily gets drowned out by all the shoulds and have-tos shouting around us.
Now is your time.
Give yourself permission to live a different way. And experience life as an exciting adventure.
I believe that we are co-creators of our lives. If you embrace this idea, then allow yourself to step into the role of creative director of your life!
We live in a world of infinite possibility. How exciting is that? Anything and everything is possible for you right now!
If you’ve decided that you don’t want to live by someone else’s rules, limitations or expectations, or perhaps you have had that creativity in your life but somehow lost it along the way, here’s how to get it back:
1. YOU Are In Charge
Embrace this idea that you are the co-creator of your life. Life is an active, creative process, one that we are manifesting and visioning into reality everyday. Think about all of the changes in technology – ipods, smartphones, apps. How did they all start? With an idea.
Your life is a creative process, too, so dream it into existence!
2. Get Really Clear
The first part of being a creator is to decide what you want.
For many years, I didn’t know what I wanted and so I learned what I didn't want by doing lots of not so fun things. This method wasn't terribly effective and I don’t recommend it. It would have been much easier if I’d known what I'd wanted and gone for it!
Be clear on exactly what you want: a new job (where, doing what, earning how much…) The more specific you can be the easier it will manifest.
Then take focused action towards your goal. What can you do to move you towards getting that job? Write a resume, cover letter, email the company, get an internship, etc.
3. Focus On The What
Our job is always to answer ONE question: What do you want?
Then we have to get out of the way.
We have no control over the how or even the when. Those are within the Universe’s domain.
I know this sounds hard, especially for those of us who are or were control freaks. But the most amazing part of this is once you do let go, the Universe works in ways you could never imagine from your current vantage point. I have been suprised over and over again by things that have manifested virtually out of thin air!
4. Relax And Have Fun!
Life is meant to be enjoyed not toiled through. Doesn’t that feel so much better?
I spent years of my life under the harness of duty and obligation. It’s part of how I’m hardwired. The wonderful aspect of this is that it has always motivated me to be of service to humanity. The downside is I can get resentful when I do things because I should and not because I want to.
Now I still serve but in ways that also fuel me. I am happier, and my life is more fun and exciting.
Think about how you can enjoy this creative process of life – making it richer and fuller all the time. How could your life be even more fun?
Relax and know that if you focus on creating it, it will come.
Incorporate these 4 simple tools into your life planning, sit back and enjoy the ride!