Getting What You Really Want in 3 Easy Steps
I once heard Marci Shimoff, the author of Happy for No Reason, explain how to be successful using 3 simple steps:
The first one is Intention.
Intention requires us to get crystal clear about exactly what it is that we want.
Such as:
A brand new red Honda Accord
A job working for a specific company doing a particular job
A partner with these particular traits
Get the idea?
The more specific and precise you can be the better.
Let’s face it, most of us bumble through life and forget how important it is to actually stop and dream in to exactly what it is that we want in our lives.
So stop right now and do it!
Are you wanting the right team of doctors and practitioners to support your healing?
Is it a specific amount of money to flow into your bank account every month?
Whatever it is, get clear, paint the picture for yourself.
I once heard Marci Shimoff, the author of Happy for No Reason, explain how to be successful using 3 simple steps:
The first one is Intention.
Intention requires us to get crystal clear about exactly what it is that we want.
Such as:
A brand new red Honda Accord
A job working for a specific company doing a particular job
A partner with these particular traits
Get the idea?
The more specific and precise you can be the better.
Let’s face it, most of us bumble through life and forget how important it is to actually stop and dream in to exactly what it is that we want in our lives.
So stop right now and do it!
Are you wanting the right team of doctors and practitioners to support your healing?
Is it a specific amount of money to flow into your bank account every month?
Whatever it is, get clear, paint the picture for yourself.
The next step is Attention.
Now that you know exactly what you want, it’s time to put your thoughts, your feelings, as well as your actions in alignment with your goals.
How does this look?
It’s stating in precise language what you want.
You might say something like:
“my healing is already in process, and the right and perfect team of people is being attracted to me right now. I will connect with them easily and effortlessly.”
Or
“I’m grateful to be working at (name of company) in the position of (title) getting paid (amount of $) and enjoying the wonderful people and supportive culture here.”
Louise Hay tells us that when we, marry affirmation with action, we get evidence that life loves us.
Wahoo!
Marci Shimoff’s final tip is No Tension.
And that is you relaxing into this process.
You’ve gotten clear about what you want, you see yourself already having it, affirm it verbally, are taking action to support you in achieving this goal
AND
Now you allow the universe to guide your actions and support you in the process.
Here’s an example, in March I was in Colorado skiing and set a goal for myself to be completely comfortable and proficient on any terrain, specifically moguls. My friend spent hours giving me tips and lessons which I worked on integrating.
And what I observed through this process was that the more I relaxed and trusted my body, the skis, his advice, the easier I could adopt these new skills.
At one point, he took me on a narrow trail where the moguls were gigantic, the drops six+ feet, and he would yell, “DIVE!” meaning I had to literally thrust my body forward as if I was going to fall forward over the hill, when every part of me wanted to sit back.
The only way I could actually pull this off was to scream, “DIVE!” out loud as I thrust myself forward. Every time I did, I was so much more in control and felt safer than when I leaned back and my skis flew out from under me.
It’s completely counterintuitive and required me to trust – myself, my equipment, my friend, life.
And here’s what happened, the more I relaxed, the better I skied!
So pick something that you want to change in your life.
Get really clear about exactly what you want.
Speak it, Feel it. Take inspired action.
And relax knowing that life loves you and wants to bring it to you.
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Move Through - Make This YOUR Year
Now that January is back in swing and your life has returned to business as usual, it’s time to ask yourself, is this exactly what you want? Life as usual?
If you’re really ready to take your year and your life to the next level, it will require change.
As Einstein is often quoted as saying, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
If you want different results in your life, here are 3 areas to explore:
Now that January is back in swing and life has returned to business as usual, it’s time to ask yourself, is this exactly what you want? Life as usual?
If you’re really ready to take your year and your life to the next level, it will require change.
As Einstein is often quoted as saying, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
If you want different results in your life, here are 3 ideas to explore:
1. Making New Habits Means Breaking Old Ones
One of my goals for 2016 is to be more visible on Social Media but that means I actually have to go onto my Twitter account, Instagram and Facebook.
I have to change my habit from perusal, from when I “feel” like it to actually scheduling it into my day and making a point of connecting to people.
My habit of scrolling lazily through my Facebook feed as I lie in bed is what I’m used to, so I keep doing it but it won’t help me achieve my goal. That requires me to foster a new habit.
What habit are you ready to change?
2. This Place is Familiar and Comfortable
So many people are unhappy in some area of their lives – with their bodies, relationships, careers, yet there is a comfort in that discomfort.
We’re used to feeling it. We’ve felt it for so long, it’s familiar. Sometimes that suffering even helps define who you are. And yet we also yearn to be free of it.
How would it feel to be without that pain?
To be in your dream body, relationship or job? Can you imagine yourself living a life of true joy, with a partner who absolutely supported you, in a body you embraced? What needs to change?
If you can imagine it, you can step into it!
3. The Upper Limit Problem
I first heard this concept in Gay Hendricks’ book, The Big Leap.
Essentially, what he explains is that we all have an unconscious set point for how much good, success, power, money, health, etc. we’re willing to accept into our lives and when we hit that threshold, we get stopped.
Think about it.
Have you ever had a huge breakthrough in one aspect of your life, maybe you got a great promotion, were ecstatic about that, came home and got in a huge argument with your spouse? That’s an example of the upper limit problem in action.
Or maybe you’re finally ready to launch your first webinar and you wake up feverish with the flu.
We upper limit ourselves because we don’t believe we deserve everything.
So when something goes well in our lives- we become super fit, publish a great article, hit a sales figure- something else in our lives has to suffer.
The first step in overcoming this is awareness that it exists at all! Then, it’s a dive in to understand what and why we hold ourselves back.
Is it an old story from childhood? An unconscious belief that is no longer true for you?
You deserve everything and Source/the Universe/God (whatever name you like) wants to give it to you.
Are you ready to receive it?
What habits and old stories are you ready to let go? Where do you see the upper limit problem manifesting in your life? Ready to break through?
Take some time to ponder these three issues. Dive into them and see what comes up. Use them as questions to ask while you meditate.
This is your time, claim it!
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Pushing Through- 5 Tools to Achieve Your Goals
We all have dreams and goals.
The question is: How do you successfully achieve them?
Often, in order to attain your goals, you have to push yourself a little harder, a little bit more.
You have to move out of your comfort zone, and into a space of uncertainty, of unknowing.
When you come up to the edge of what you know, do or know how to do, it frequently feels scary, and kicks up insecurity, vulnerability or fear.
In spite of these scary feelings, how can you succeed anyway? How can you move into that next level of creativity, success, satisfaction or weight goal
We all have dreams and goals.
The question is: How do you successfully achieve them?
Often, in order to attain your goals, you have to push yourself a little harder, a little bit more.
You have to move out of your comfort zone, and into a space of uncertainty, of unknowing.
When you come up to the edge of what you know, do or know how to do, it frequently feels scary, and kicks up insecurity, vulnerability or fear.
In spite of these scary feelings, how can you succeed anyway? How can you move into that next level of creativity, success, satisfaction or weight goal?
Here are Five Ideas to Help Get You There:
1. Anger
Anger might seem like a counterintuitive emotion because normally we equate anger with hurting ourselves or hurting others. But here’s how anger can be channeled positively: Have you ever been furious that something didn’t work out for you?
Think about a time when you failed. Perhaps it was an experience where something didn’t go as you planned.
Last year I was going for a certification and needed to demonstrate my mastery of the technique. I was nervous because, like most people, I can be self-conscious AND the test required that I both memorize a procedure and the “exact” wording. My fear and insecurity got activated because I’m not a brilliant memorizer.
I’m sure you can guess what happened. I failed.
I walked out of the testing room fuming mad. I was angry at the test, at the person who developed it, at the entire workshop but mostly at myself.
What did I do?
Instead of turning that anger inward, feeling sorry for myself, and bolting to my car, I used the anger as fuel. Because here’s the thing with anger, when used correctly, it can provide an enormous adrenaline charge.
My fury propelled me into determination to pass. So I channeled all that frustration into focus and, twenty minutes later, re-took the test.
Think about a time when you’ve experienced anger – because things didn’t go as you expected - and it launched you to take action.
This is exactly what I’m talking about.
2. Insight
Have you ever had a moment of total clarity when suddenly you see exactly what you need to do? Having one of those a-ha moments can give you the momentum to move out of cloudiness or non-action into action.
Insight often comes when we least expect it (of course!) Steve Jobs loved to walk. Others find inspiration while driving. Some of us get clarity when we meditate, others from doodling.
Typically, our minds are in a state of rest, creativity or contemplation when insight strikes. So make sure to give yourself time for that to happen.
Go for a stroll, buy a coloring book or start a meditation practice.
3. Support
Knowing that you aren’t alone can be a huge help in pushing through.
When I was in my early twenties, I was the assistant sales manager for a knitwear factory in Hong Kong. My job was in a heavily industrialized area far from central Hong Kong and, because I didn’t speak Chinese, there was little for me to do. (Looking back on it, I’m not sure why they hired me.)
I was depressed and frustrated. But because I was alone, I felt incapable of making a change. I internalized all that anger and gained thirty pounds.
Fortunately, my situation changed a few moths later when I bonded with a young British woman. We became fast friends and I finally was able to confess how much I hated my job. Having her there, knowing that I wasn’t alone, made all the difference. I quit and made a list of what I needed in my life. Soon I found a job teaching at an international school.
All because I felt supported.
Where can you get support? Is there a spouse, friend or family member with whom you can speak honestly?
What kind of support do you need? A listening ear, a helping hand, a mastermind partner?
Make a list of people and what you need from them.
4. Knowledge
We all know knowledge is power. When I feel scared about pushing myself, I seek out experts. I read, follow them on social media or talk face to face.
When I started my new company two years ago, I didn’t know anything about having an online business. So, I began researching and looking for guidance. It’s amazing, once we begin to ask, to look, what we can find!
There are so many online business experts, social media gurus and techies.
Where can you go to find the learning you need to push through? The library, a website, someone you know?
5. Awareness
Ultimately everything comes down to this: Fostering awareness.
By choosing to be awake, aware and centered in your life, opens you up to see where you limit yourself and where you may need help, support, guidance or knowledge.
Cultivate awareness in every moment by learning to look at yourself objectively, as the observer. Where are you and where would you like to be?
Awareness comes with the breath. Breathe in quietly and ask – where am I stuck? Listen for an answer. And then ask? How can I push through?
Mindfulness is the art of awareness, paying attention, being fully present in life.
When we incorporate mindfulness into the equation, it offers us a way to get clarity, understanding and tools to manifest what we most desire. It also helps us effectively utilize all of the above tools.
The exciting news is that you have everything you need to succeed. Use these tools to help you accomplish your goals. The world needs you to be and feel successful! Get started today!