time management

A Simple Way to Use Time Efficiently

A Simple Way to Use Time Efficiently

We have been told that time is an artificial construct only our lived experience does not feel like that!

Time feels relevant, full of meaning. We have appointments, schedules, flights, people to meet…

So perhaps the way to look at time is to ask yourself, are you using your time or filling your time?

In other words, how do your days feel? Are they exciting and vibrant? Do you feel alive and excited about your life?

Or are you waiting for the day to end? For you to be done with some task you don’t like in order to relax, chill out, or do what you want to do.

One of the most important lessons I learned about time, is that it is happening right now.

I often find myself quoting a line from a John Lennon song, “life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.”

You Said NOTHING?

You Said NOTHING?

Sometimes life can feel like an endless To Do List. This weekend, while I contemplated relaxing, got eaten up instead with household chores, entertaining and childcare.

Suddenly it's Monday again! The have-tos start as soon as the alarm goes off and the week can easily be absorbed with task fulfillment and checked boxes.

When this happens, my life begins to feel like a treadmill.

I walk, run, sprint but am on this endless go round. That’s when a little thought enters my mind and suggests it might be time to stop and do... nothing.

4 Secrets to Being More Self Motivated

4 Secrets to Being More Self Motivated

Last week I was talking to my 19 year-old about motivation. Why is it that certain people are motivated and others aren't? That some folks seem to walk through life stress-free while others wear it all over them? And that got me thinking.

When I was in my 20s, I needed extrinsic (outside of myself) means to keep me motivated. Partly because I was struggling with addiction issues and avoidance issues. I was easily stressed and lacked the confidence to get things done on my own. Work and school did that well, although not without stress and weight gain. I had to turn in my paper by Friday or be prepared for a dozen phone calls on September 12th. Deadlines helped keep me on track but I wasn't sure what to do with my stress and wasn't great at time management, often waiting until the last minute to get stuff done.