Move Through - Make This YOUR Year
Now that January is back in swing and your life has returned to business as usual, it’s time to ask yourself, is this exactly what you want? Life as usual?
If you’re really ready to take your year and your life to the next level, it will require change.
As Einstein is often quoted as saying, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
If you want different results in your life, here are 3 areas to explore:
Now that January is back in swing and life has returned to business as usual, it’s time to ask yourself, is this exactly what you want? Life as usual?
If you’re really ready to take your year and your life to the next level, it will require change.
As Einstein is often quoted as saying, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
If you want different results in your life, here are 3 ideas to explore:
1. Making New Habits Means Breaking Old Ones
One of my goals for 2016 is to be more visible on Social Media but that means I actually have to go onto my Twitter account, Instagram and Facebook.
I have to change my habit from perusal, from when I “feel” like it to actually scheduling it into my day and making a point of connecting to people.
My habit of scrolling lazily through my Facebook feed as I lie in bed is what I’m used to, so I keep doing it but it won’t help me achieve my goal. That requires me to foster a new habit.
What habit are you ready to change?
2. This Place is Familiar and Comfortable
So many people are unhappy in some area of their lives – with their bodies, relationships, careers, yet there is a comfort in that discomfort.
We’re used to feeling it. We’ve felt it for so long, it’s familiar. Sometimes that suffering even helps define who you are. And yet we also yearn to be free of it.
How would it feel to be without that pain?
To be in your dream body, relationship or job? Can you imagine yourself living a life of true joy, with a partner who absolutely supported you, in a body you embraced? What needs to change?
If you can imagine it, you can step into it!
3. The Upper Limit Problem
I first heard this concept in Gay Hendricks’ book, The Big Leap.
Essentially, what he explains is that we all have an unconscious set point for how much good, success, power, money, health, etc. we’re willing to accept into our lives and when we hit that threshold, we get stopped.
Think about it.
Have you ever had a huge breakthrough in one aspect of your life, maybe you got a great promotion, were ecstatic about that, came home and got in a huge argument with your spouse? That’s an example of the upper limit problem in action.
Or maybe you’re finally ready to launch your first webinar and you wake up feverish with the flu.
We upper limit ourselves because we don’t believe we deserve everything.
So when something goes well in our lives- we become super fit, publish a great article, hit a sales figure- something else in our lives has to suffer.
The first step in overcoming this is awareness that it exists at all! Then, it’s a dive in to understand what and why we hold ourselves back.
Is it an old story from childhood? An unconscious belief that is no longer true for you?
You deserve everything and Source/the Universe/God (whatever name you like) wants to give it to you.
Are you ready to receive it?
What habits and old stories are you ready to let go? Where do you see the upper limit problem manifesting in your life? Ready to break through?
Take some time to ponder these three issues. Dive into them and see what comes up. Use them as questions to ask while you meditate.
This is your time, claim it!
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What Do You Deserve?
How much we allow ourselves to have in our lives is a function of what we think we deserve.
Let me ask you this:
Have you ever been at a party or a club or walked down a block of a ritzy area of town and wished that it was your life, that you lived there or had those friends?
I sure have.
And over the summer I had an interesting realization.
How much we allow ourselves to have in our lives is a function of what we think we deserve.
Let me ask you this:
Have you ever been at a party or a club or walked down a block of a ritzy area of town and wished that it was your life, that you lived there or had those friends?
I sure have.
And over the summer I had an interesting realization.
I was visiting a place I really liked. It had everything I was ready for in my life. It was rural but not too rural. It was progressive but not weird. It was close to a metropolitan area but still felt like a small town.
I asked myself: Could I have this? Could I live here? Was it too good to be true?
I was charmed by this place and wanted to be part of what I perceived as its coolness. Wondering if I would be accepted.
I stood looking at the view and taking in the sea and snow capped mountains. Before long, I got my answer. The words rushed over me as I stood staring out at the ocean.
“You can have everything.”
“Really?” I asked the wind.
The reply was resounding and reverberated across the sky. “Yes.”
At first I was awed by this realization. Wow, how cool. I leaned into the sun, allowing it to shine directly into my face. I could have this. I could have everything.
Awesome.
But then my logical brain pushed through and wanted to know what that would entail. It asked bossily. “How? What do I have to do?”
The knowing voice answered affirmatively. “By believing that you deserve it.”
Deserve perfect health, happiness, success, prosperity… everything.
As I allowed myself to open up more to that idea, I began to understand the guidance I was being given.
I was limiting myself.
Why was it that I thought I didn’t deserve?
Was it an old voice in my head? Was it a belief that was no longer true for me? An expired message?
I had to dig out that negative root that was telling me I could only have so much and plant a new one. This required a journey within, to extricate that old thought pattern, the one that was now limiting me and dictating how much good, happiness or success I could expect.
Whose voice was it? Whose belief? Was it my father telling me to play it safe or my sister invalidating my “new age-y-ness”?
Whoever or whatever it was, it had to go. Because the message it was telling me had long been outgrown.
On this spiritual path, we always have the opportunity to open up to life or to close.
Each and every moment.
Was I limiting what I was willing to accept by seeing myself as undeserving?
Was I ready to open up and allow more in?
And if so, how?
The odd part is that we want so much to know what we have to do. But in reality, there isn’t anything to do, we just have to accept, embrace and open up to receive.
In a class I took with happiness expert, Robert Holden, PhD, he gave us this scenario: “You are walking down a hallway. On one door it says, ‘Happiness.’ On the other door it says, ‘Lecture on Happiness’. Which door would you choose?”
In that moment, I was busted because I knew I would have chosen the lecture door. My ‘do-er’ mind always wanting to know how. When in reality, it is all here for us right now. All we have to do is open up to it and allow it in.
Is there something that you’ve been longing for in your life? Are you ready to see it manifest for you?
Are you ready to believe that you deserve it?
What will it take?
A shift in mindset? An opening of your heart? The willingness to accept?
Can you allow yourself to deserve it? To know that it is your divine right to be happy, thin, wealthy, healthy?
I will hold that vision for you. Now step into it and believe it for yourself.