Move into Your New Life with Joy & Ease
In my blog a few weeks ago, I laid out the 3 steps for manifesting your vision – dreaming it, writing it out, speaking it into existence and allowing it to occur. (if you missed it, click here.)
As it begins to come to fruition, something curious happens.
Instead of being elated, you may feel scared, unsure or totally unsettled.
This is the moment when we can self-sabotage.
In my blog a few weeks ago, I laid out the 3 steps for manifesting your vision – dreaming it, writing it out, speaking it into existence and allowing it to occur. (if you missed it, click here.)
As it begins to come to fruition, something curious happens.
Instead of being elated, you may feel scared, unsure or totally unsettled.
This is the moment when we can self-sabotage.
It’s kind of ironic – to move toward creating exactly what you want only to be scared of it.
The first part (see above) was focused on manifesting externally – the new job, the healthy body, the intimate relationship.
Now you have to make the internal shifts in order to fully step in and maintain this new space and way of being. It’s time to up-level both within and without.
Here are 4 tips to help you actually live your dreams:
1. The Upper Limit Challenge
Gay Hendricks wrote about this concept in The Big Leap. In a nutshell, it’s when we get something we want – like a promotion, dream house, retirement- and then sabotage another area of our lives – pick a fight with the spouse, get sick. Because we can't take too much good.
Upper limit issues can also manifest in that sudden fear you feel after you landed your first $10k client or sold your initial $2M property and your stomach drops. Immediately the internal critic starts: “This is never gonna happen again. I can’t hold onto this, I’m gonna lose it all…”
That voice is a signal to you that you’ve hit the unconscious ceiling – your upper limit of success, of what you believe you deserve.
When this occurs, allow yourself to recognize it. Gently move to a place where you can open up and allow even more happiness, money, abundance, and love into your life. Use your spiritual practice to ground and support you. Additionally, ask yourself:
- Is there someone I have to forgive?
- Does an old belief need to get released?
We must release the old in order to make room for the new.
2. Give Yourself Time
When we push into the new and get what we've asked for, the expectation is that now everything is perfect.
It’s the fairy tale / happily ever after syndrome.
But the beginning is never the end!
Think about it.
You’ve just expanded yourself. Of course it feels strange and uncomfortable. It's natural to feel vulnerable or weird. Be patient with yourself as you settle into this new state.
Remember, it takes time to learn how to swim in this bigger pond! To navigate the ins and outs of the terrain and make friends with the new inhabitants. To learn how to live your fairy tale.
3. Expand Into The And
When we feel afraid because something is new or unfamiliar, we immediately want to contract back to what is safe.
Instead, see if you can allow yourself to stay open to possibility, networking opportunities, and new connections.
If you find yourself feeling small or wanting to run back to your old job, home, or neighborhood, recognize it for what it is, a normal response.
Instead of judging, honor your process and nourish yourself in ways that feed you – take a bath, go for a walk, have dinner with friends. Relax.
Then schedule something new at least once a week to help you expand and reach out.
4. Hold the Tension
The transition between moving from the old situation into the new is fraught with uncertainty and anxiety. Because these are feelings we typically never want to experience, we often push them away resulting in sabotaging behavior.
Instead, see if you can be okay not knowing everything, not having solved every challenge.
For in that space of the unknown lies the alchemy, the magic of total transformation.
It's there waiting for you. Waiting for you to fully step into this higher vibration, this new exciting, thrilling life that you’ve dreamed, visioned, and manifested.
Now it’s time to genuinely and wholeheartedly embrace it and live it.
You are SO up for this. Go for it!
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Move Through - Make This YOUR Year
Now that January is back in swing and your life has returned to business as usual, it’s time to ask yourself, is this exactly what you want? Life as usual?
If you’re really ready to take your year and your life to the next level, it will require change.
As Einstein is often quoted as saying, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
If you want different results in your life, here are 3 areas to explore:
Now that January is back in swing and life has returned to business as usual, it’s time to ask yourself, is this exactly what you want? Life as usual?
If you’re really ready to take your year and your life to the next level, it will require change.
As Einstein is often quoted as saying, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
If you want different results in your life, here are 3 ideas to explore:
1. Making New Habits Means Breaking Old Ones
One of my goals for 2016 is to be more visible on Social Media but that means I actually have to go onto my Twitter account, Instagram and Facebook.
I have to change my habit from perusal, from when I “feel” like it to actually scheduling it into my day and making a point of connecting to people.
My habit of scrolling lazily through my Facebook feed as I lie in bed is what I’m used to, so I keep doing it but it won’t help me achieve my goal. That requires me to foster a new habit.
What habit are you ready to change?
2. This Place is Familiar and Comfortable
So many people are unhappy in some area of their lives – with their bodies, relationships, careers, yet there is a comfort in that discomfort.
We’re used to feeling it. We’ve felt it for so long, it’s familiar. Sometimes that suffering even helps define who you are. And yet we also yearn to be free of it.
How would it feel to be without that pain?
To be in your dream body, relationship or job? Can you imagine yourself living a life of true joy, with a partner who absolutely supported you, in a body you embraced? What needs to change?
If you can imagine it, you can step into it!
3. The Upper Limit Problem
I first heard this concept in Gay Hendricks’ book, The Big Leap.
Essentially, what he explains is that we all have an unconscious set point for how much good, success, power, money, health, etc. we’re willing to accept into our lives and when we hit that threshold, we get stopped.
Think about it.
Have you ever had a huge breakthrough in one aspect of your life, maybe you got a great promotion, were ecstatic about that, came home and got in a huge argument with your spouse? That’s an example of the upper limit problem in action.
Or maybe you’re finally ready to launch your first webinar and you wake up feverish with the flu.
We upper limit ourselves because we don’t believe we deserve everything.
So when something goes well in our lives- we become super fit, publish a great article, hit a sales figure- something else in our lives has to suffer.
The first step in overcoming this is awareness that it exists at all! Then, it’s a dive in to understand what and why we hold ourselves back.
Is it an old story from childhood? An unconscious belief that is no longer true for you?
You deserve everything and Source/the Universe/God (whatever name you like) wants to give it to you.
Are you ready to receive it?
What habits and old stories are you ready to let go? Where do you see the upper limit problem manifesting in your life? Ready to break through?
Take some time to ponder these three issues. Dive into them and see what comes up. Use them as questions to ask while you meditate.